Everyone knows anxieties. We would like to help you do something with your anxiety. We especially want to help you address the root cause of your anxiety. We would like to help you find tranquillity and peace of mind. In this article, we would like to give you a better understanding of your fear and some advice on how to deal with it. But most of all, we want to help you tackle your anxiety at its source.
Why are we anxious?
We would like to be in complete control of our situation, our circumstances, our health and our lives. But the truth is, we will never fully get it. No matter how much money you make, health is not for sale. No matter how many people you may love, you will never find ultimate happiness.
Every human being has his or her fears. In a threatening situation, it is normal to have anxiety. But it can also happen that a fear comes from having thoughts about possible threatening situations. When that fear becomes so great that it starts controlling your life, you need help.
Fears take many forms
- Fears of specific objects, animals or situations
- The fear of panic attacks
- Trauma caused by painful, shocking or extreme experiences
- Fear of other people’s criticism or reactions
- Fear of pain or death, ghosts, unfamiliar situations
- Compulsive thoughts (often caused by stress)
The consequences can be severe. Prolonged anxiety and stress can cause sleep deficiencies and problems with concentration. It can also lead to weight gain and reduced immunity to disease.
Anxiety has a paralysing effect
You have surely noticed that when you are anxious, that emotion acts as an obstacle and clouds the clear view of your situation. Overcoming your fears allows you to grow in life. You are not alone. Don’t be afraid to talk about your fears and difficulties. Don’t be ashamed of your fears and realise that another person is often struggling with one fear or another too.
Fear of death
Probably the greatest fear a person can have is the fear of death. Do you feel that your life is coming to an end? You may have the feeling that you will die suddenly. Does the thought paralyse you when you think about the fact that life could be over just like that? It could be that you are sick and have been told you don’t have long to live. But maybe you are in perfect health and are afraid of getting sick.
Maybe you have lost loved ones before and you fear a repeat of this painful experience. Or maybe you are afraid of experiencing pain or loss yourself? Or what will happen to, say, your children when you are gone. If you experience great uncertainty about what will happen if you or a loved one dies, read on to this website. We would like to offer you hope and perspective.
Lost in the dark
You may be dealing with multiple fears. Fears can reinforce each other and can blind you. We would like all these fears to suddenly disappear, but that is unlikely. Financial problems don’t usually resolve themselves on their own. Feeling unloved does not fix itself overnight. But fear tries to strangle us with its lies. What we need is a little courage, a light at the end of the tunnel and an outstretched hand from someone you can trust.
Your life may be in a storm right now. Sleeplessness makes you tired and depressed. You may have taken refuge in drink or drugs to ease the pain. It is as if fear stands before you like a giant mountain and you are a climber with no tools. There seems to be no solution. At least you think there isn’t. Your heart rate speeds up, your brain works too fast and you find yourself exhausted from fighting with your thoughts. Almost everyone has had that feeling at one time or another.
Is it possible to overcome your fears? Is there a way we can defeat all these dark enemies? Read on and find out what we can do together.
From darkness to light
Many people use medication or therapies to combat anxiety, but they are often means and methods that suppress the anxiety. We want to give you a couple of tips that can help you calm down right now. But most of all, at the end of this article, we want to invite you to seek a true solution to your anxiety.
Short-term tips for anxiety
- Set some time aside and sit or lie down comfortably.
- If possible make this a routine twice a day at set times
- Take about 4 seconds of slow deep breaths in through your nose and let your belly fill. Hold your breath for about 4 seconds and then gently exhale through your nose. Put a hand on your belly and on your chest. Your hand on your belly should move more than the one on your chest while breathing; Keep your eyes closed and think of pleasant things while breathing. Try to keep this up for 5 to 15 minutes.
- You can tighten and release your muscles while breathing in and out: You start at your toes and move up through your calves, abdomen, chest, fingers, arms, shoulders, neck and face
- You can also take a bath or a long shower. Or go for a walk in nature or listen to quiet music.
- Ask yourself the question “What are you afraid of?” What do you think and what do you feel? Take your time and think about it. What is causing it? Be quiet for a while and observe your thoughts.
- By writing down what makes you anxious, it gets out of your mind and can become less daunting. The process of writing down thoughts itself can be calming for some.
- Might there also be a physical cause for your anxiety? For example, too much coffee, alcohol, smoking, stress, lack of sleep, medication, or is the anxiety coming from past experiences?
- Fear is a liar. Your feelings are not the truth. Search for the truth. Do your feelings still match the current situation? Remember that feelings come and go.
- Shift your focus to everything that is true, honest, kind, beautiful and good. Think of a place of joy that makes you happy. Name a number of positive experiences. What can you be grateful for? Replace your negative thoughts.
- Don’t try to be perfect. What is the worst thing that happens when something is not done perfectly?
- Seek help. Discuss your thoughts with your partner, a family member or close friend. Do realise that they often care more about you than you might think. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings of anxiety. Do realise that everyone struggles with fears in their lives from time to time. Sometimes fears are so big that you also need the help of a professional to get a grip on your fears again.
- Make sure you eat and drink healthily. Start moving.
- Face your fears instead of running from them.What is the worst thing that could happen? And what are the chances of that actually happening?
- Forgive those who cause your fear
- Reward yourself when you have overcome a fear
Tackling your fears at the source
All fears and worries have one single common source; We are afraid of losing control of our lives. We are afraid of not doing well (enough) in life. And the truth is that we are never able to do well either.
We are far from being in control of our lives. You could get caught by a bus tomorrow or get a critical illness. Therefore, it is important to figure out today what is really important in life.
If we look at our lives from the point of view of our Creator, we have to conclude that we all make a mess of our lives. No matter how kind and caring to others you may be, no human being is doing well enough,
Is that a justification for settling for this? Certainly not! You can have a valuable and meaningful life. A life where you will no longer be controlled by fear.
Do you want to tackle your fears at their source?
Do you want to find true peace?